Getting back to routines, such as school and work, can be hard, scary, and frustrating. Be patient with yourself, ask for what you need, and work with those who
can help you make these transitions back into the “outside” world.
When your brother or sister is missing, going back to school or work will be different—in how it feels and what you will need to be supported and productive. It may be hard to even think about going back. There’s constant activity (that feels like chaos) at home, and you may want to be there to help and know what’s happening. Returning to school or work may feel like you’re neglecting your family or being selfish.
Even with these feelings, remember that school and work are important parts of our “normal,” everyday lives; they keep us moving forward in our learning and personal growth—and in the case of work, provide needed income and resources. But with life no longer feeling at all “normal,” how can you feel safe and solid about getting back into those “out there” routines? We understand that struggle and hope our ideas make the transition a bit easier.
“After [Jacob’s] abduction, I didn’t go back to school for a long time. I didn’t want to be away from my family, and I wanted to be there if my brother was found.” —Trevor
“I remember my first day back to school pretty clearly. I liked my teacher. She held a small meeting with my friends and the school counselor. It was a good chance to talk about things.” —Carmen
“Going back to college was extremely difficult. I did poorly in my classes that semester, and I failed English for the first time in my whole life.” —Robin
